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How did I end up marrying my parents?

How did I end up marrying my parents?

Some of us growing up had it quite easy, and some of us not so much. We’re not blaming our parents, because they loved us and did the best with whatever they had. But even if we had it easy, life…

How do I know it’s time to end a relationship?

How do I know it’s time to end a relationship?

You’ll know it’s time to leave your relationship if you’ve truly worked on yourself and how you respond in the relationship. If you’re developing into the person you want to be in a relationship,…

What should a healthy Relationship Look like?

What should a healthy Relationship Look like?

A healthy relationship is never perfect, in fact, it’s often imperfect and can show up in areas of conflict. Couples in healthy relationships learn that conflict is actually an opportunity for…

How do I know my partner is “the one”?

How do I know my partner is “the one”?

It’s key when beginning to consciously search for a life partner to pay close attention to a few things. 1. Is there chemistry (i.e., do I feel that lovely flutter in my belly and…

Why do I date the same type of person over and over?

Why do I date the same type of person over and over?

They might appear to have different gift wrapping but ultimately they are very similar to our previous partners and challenge us in the same way that they did. (Do you notice that you are having the…

How do I know I married the right person?

How do I know I married the right person?

Right is a tricky thing to seek. I would suggest that there is no such thing as the right person. Harville Hendrix says: “Instead of looking for the right relationship, become the right…

Why do we fight over money?

Why do we fight over money?

Many many couples fight over money and that makes sense. We are not taught to talk about money in our culture so we don’t have language around that. Money is also necessary for survival so we…

Will I ever be able to trust my partner again after an affair?

Will I ever be able to trust my partner again after an affair?

It is completely possible to heal after this type of rupture. It does take work and willingness. Imago has a clear step-by-step structure for healing and for understanding why this happened in…

Why do we have the same argument over and over again?

Why do we have the same argument over and over again?

Often times, the same argument comes up again and again because one partner has a wound that s/he/they have tried to get the other to understand — over and over again.The IMAGO dialogue is the…

Why do we fight over the kids?

Why do we fight over the kids?

Kids represent a lot of the joys and triggers of our experience being parented. We often fight over the kids when we are triggered by fear and stand firmly in our position for fear that something bad…

What happened to the fun in our relationship?

What happened to the fun in our relationship?

Our brains like a novelty. We become complacent in our relationships and bored. Belly laughs are important. Learning Imago Dialogue helps create safety to have fun again. And planning fun (what…

How do I get my partner to help more with the kids and the house?

How do I get my partner to help more with the kids and the house?

I imagine any two people in a relationship have different experiences and expectations on parenting and the division of household labor based on their family of origin and the culture of that…

Why won’t my partner go to therapy with me?

Why won’t my partner go to therapy with me?

Fear is often the reason behind someone not wanting to go to therapy: fear of being ganged up on fear of being blamed fear or not being good enough fear of being asked to change fear around…

How do I get my partner to communicate feelings?

How do I get my partner to communicate feelings?

There is enormous value in the concept of curiosity. What happens when we ask our partner to help us understand their motivation for doing something, instead of judging what they have done? Imagine…

Should we set relationship goals as a couple?

Should we set relationship goals as a couple?

Yes, setting goals can change your relationship! Setting goals prioritize your relationship by encouraging you and your partner to set aside time for what really matters. Goals also encourage…

How do I know if I have a healthy relationship?

How do I know if I have a healthy relationship?

Healthy relationships don’t just happen, they are built and both partners must work on improving themselves first as well as the partnership. Here are 10 important characteristics of a healthy…

Why is it the things that attracted me to my partner are now driving me crazy?

Why is it the things that attracted me to my partner are now driving me crazy?

Out of 50 million people during our relationship search, we end up only feeling that romantic love “buzz” and need to commit with very few. Why is that? The truth is most people don’t really…